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The Fascinating Link Between Self-Destructive Behavior and Love Languages
How a viral video is helping people understand themselves
Tik-Tok is a fascinating place. Social media can show us when something really resonates with a massive amount of people. Posts go viral, sometimes out of malice or anger, but because they create such a lightbulb moment in someone that they just have to share it. A recent viral post explores a fascinating connection between love languages and self-destructive behaviors.
What are the Five Love Languages?
Posts going viral are not unlike a book becoming a best seller. People read the book and want to share it, they talk about it, pass it around, buy copies of it for friends and loved ones. The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman is such a book. It has sold over 12 million copies in English and has been translated into 50 languages. You could say it went old-school viral.
Dr. Chapman discovered in his 40 years as a couples counselor that people often felt that their partner just didn’t love them. But the other person would insist that they were trying. He found that the types of love that people gave and wanted to receive fell into five categories. When he started introducing these categories, or “languages” to his couples…
